(Extra)orindary

Dear me,

"Ordinary." 
You hate that word, don't you? 
You know this is true because when you hear it, a tiny twinge of anxiety rises up inside of you. 
But you know what? You're not alone. 

You belong to a generation that fears living an ordinary life. And in a huge way, that fear has driven them to do more with less time than any generation that has gone before them. But as is with everything, there is a shadow side to that progress. 

The simple daily, often times challenging, tasks in relationship and life have made their way into the most loathed category of their lives: the "mundane". They fear the possibility of being ordinary. Everyone is on the quest to be something of a legend. To be great. To be extraordinary. To do what has never been done before. And that in and of itself is not an inherently bad desire, I guess. But the comical thing about that desire is that most people we would consider to be the greats of history never set out trying to be so. They simply lived as honestly and vulnerably with the world around them in such a way that others looked at them and said, "That's rare. That's special. That's legendary." They had a conviction and didn't compromise and the world took notice.
No one becomes extraordinary simply by desiring to be something special. So at an attempt to prevent you from getting too far down that track, can I suggest that you reconsider jumping onto the crazy train? 
Instead, join the minority of your generation with this series of thought:

What if greatness and extraordinary and legendary living was actually found by doing the daily, simple, "mundane" task of loving your family really, really well? I know...so glamorous, right? But stick with me for a minute or two...

It's not the book you write, or the conference you organize, or the sermon you speak, or the album you wish to record, or the celebrity status this generation so terribly lusts after that makes up the greatness God desires to express through your life. What if we stopped glorifying the "dreamers" and the "creatives" (whatever that means?), and instead encouraged honest, vulnerable, and intentional living? The goal should be that the latter inspires the former, not the other way around.

What if we celebrated those who were going home at night to love their families by serving them practically and affirming them in the scriptures? What if God's idea of greatness was more about families and marriages that, not only endured through good and bad, but were committed to thriving through both times in such a way that only He could receive glory? And when I talk about families, I don't mean just biologically established families that started with a marriage...although, yes, I do believe we need more of these types of families. But what I mean is more so the family of God and whatever combination of His sons and daughters of which you might find yourself a part.
We'll call it your "Kingdom kin".

What if God's ideas of "greatness and extraordinary" were far more about how you live your life in the daily, simple, & "mundane"? What if He wasn't concerned one bit with how big your event becomes or what "platform" you reach or if anyone recognizes you as something special at all? What if the way you loved your family --- both biological and Kingdom kin -- was really what He sought after and all it took to truly live an extraordinary life? 

Let's pause for just a moment...
Here's what I am not saying: 

I am not advocating for us to stop dreaming or trying new things or taking new risks. I am not saying to stop pursuing the visions God has given you. 

But what I am saying is this: 

The waiting time between when God gives you a vision and the time it is realized is likely to be far longer than what you initially think or prefer. Furthermore, that time is likely to be full of simple, daily, "mundane" tasks requiring discipline, patience, and commitment from you---first with God, secondly with the people with which you are surrounded. The "vision" is probably not the point. The journey to its realization and how it connects you more intimately to God, as well as others? That is the point. 

Reject the temptation to view the patience, process, and daily endurance as a "mundane", ordinary way of living.

The impact of that enduring way of life will reach far beyond your years and transform the generations to come. 
Is there anything more legendary?
x.
Alexa | Joy

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